Barbara About Bree

Barbara wrote: Myrna, 
 
How are the kids doing?
 
I am moving the 23rd of next month.  That is in 3 weeks.  I am bringing my job with me.  I love it.  I will get my own place as quickly as possible, but I will be there to help with the kids.  I have missed them so much.   
 
I had hoped that Bree was improving.  I hurt very much for her.  I think maybe that her ability to handle stress is almost nil.  Part of her psychosis.  I hope the Drs. in St. George can help.  I know they won't be moving again, I do believe they are "home."  So, she can plan long term to get the help she needs.    
 
I have given a lot of thought about David "living in the bed he made."  I know Bree was feeling that here, that he was doing just that.  I had hoped that moving would bring them closer together.  I know this is unbelievably hard on David.  He works very hard and deserves more.  And Bree just wants to be loved.  
 
Let me know about the kids.  You are a good friend and a great grandmother.  I hope you are doing well.  
 
Barbara

Myrna wrote: They are great and we enjoy them. I hope that when you move we will still be called on to help. We like doing that. I have hated being too far away to help.

Myrna wrote: I don't know why Bree feels that way about David. He couldn't love her more. No matter what happens he still loves her. Maybe she thinks that she is unloveable but it is not true. She just has an illness that she needs help with. I have NEVER heard anyone say that David had "made his bed." I know that we all grieved that her father was at death's door and then were happy to find out that it was not true.

No one is casting stones. We know how wonderful it has been to have Eric receive the right treatment and to be doing so well. We are happy about that and we will be happy when that happens for Bree. Consistent care is necessary.

Going Nuts About Coconut Oil!

By Audrey Kunin, MD

I love to cook. Yet much of my domestic culinary life has been shadowed by my obsession to remove unhealthy saturated fats from my family's diet. After all, isn't it a given that fat is bad for you? And haven't I struggled with my weight, my heart health and my love of a good French fry?

As a dermatologist, I've taken comfort in the knowledge that many of those good-for-us unsaturated fats also have healthy skin benefits. The omega-3s from sources like fish, walnuts and olive and canola oils work to keep skin less eczema-prone, and reduces dryness and sensitivity. Hair looks lustrous and becomes less brittle while nails get stronger.

Yet I have avoided one of my favorite food sources due to my concern that it was high in "bad" fat. Warned about the high levels of saturated fat found in coconut oils, I sadly said goodbye to coconut milk-based sauces, macaroons, piña  coladas and Mounds bars. My palate protested the unfairness of a plant saturated with saturated fat!

To my delight, I’ve since learned that sometimes a "bad" fat (at least in modest portions), can be a skin-healthy choice. Initially, I discovered that my general health concerns about using either coconut or coconut oil in my recipes was unfounded. Coconut oil is composed of an unusual medium chain fatty acid. These fats don't wreak the havoc on the cardiovascular system that its saturated-fat cousins cause.

Virgin coconut oil has an amazing ability to fight free-radical damage, presumably because it is rich in ferulic and p-coumaric acid. Consumed, this means these powerful antioxidants can fight free-radical damage and is now yet another tool in my wrinkle-busting arsenal. Applied topically, it has been shown to be useful in wound healing.

A recent journal article put omega-3-rich fish oils head to head with omega-6-rich coconut oil. Guess what they found? A diet rich in omega-3 fish oil alone led to a significant decrease in the body's ability to fight free-radical damage, presumably due to a noticeable drop in blood levels of vitamins E and A.

End result, while fish oils decreased plasma blood fats, they created a challenge to the antioxidant defense system. Not good news for banishing wrinkles. The best way to handle this for maximum skin health is to incorporate both omega-3 and omega-6 fats into your diet, both in moderation, of course.

Another plus, coconut oil contains lauric acid which boosts immunity and fights infection. The only other major source is mother's milk. Presumably for one prone to skin concerns that leave broken skin exposed to possible bacterial infection (such as eczema), having adequate levels of lauric acid could prove useful in reducing the risk of a secondary bacterial infection.

And finally, it has been suggested that individuals consuming virgin coconut oil instead of soybean, olive or corn oils may see a boost in metabolism and an edge in their attempts to lose weight. Now isn't that worth cooking for?

Coconut Oil

Gordon Smith wrote: Myrna, what do you think? Gordon

 

Coconut oil Please take the time to watch this video....it could be life changing   There is a short video add before the coconut oil video starts. Coconut oil — watch to the end - A Real Eye Opener!

http://www.cbn.com/media/player/index.aspx?s=/mp4/LJO190v1_WS

Myrna wrote: I'm going to get some as soon as possible. I always worry about not knowing who I am at some point. I actually saw another report by Dr. Oz that also recommended pure coconut oil. 

www.doctoroz.com/videos/coconut-oil-super-powers-pt-1

nutiva.com/articles/dr-oz-on-the-superpowers-of-coconut-oil/

Barbara wrote: Yep, getting the coconut oil, you know, it might help Bree.  I know it will help me.  Thanks for the info.  And I am still glad Alan is not dying.  (To be honest, I just didn't really believe, at any time, that he was.)  I guess that is why I finally called him.  LOL, and LOL.  We are glad.  I kept texting Bree that I knew she wasn't telling me "everything."  

Between Two Moms

You told me that David told Leonard, in Gunnison when they went hunting, that he had "made his bed."  Maybe it wasn't as negative as I took it.  I hope not.  Any way, I just want what is best for both of them.  I admire David so much for just sticking with her, I just want it to be for the right reason, because he loves her, and not because he has to fullfull some "obligation."  
 
That is all beside the point, they are adults and need to figure it out if they want to be happy.  Right now all I really care about is that the kids are OK.  I know both David and Bree want the kids to spend as much time with you and Leonard as you both can stand.  It is good for them and it is the only way they can really know their grandparents.  
 
I will still be working.  She needs help with Caydin more than anything.  I want to be able to help her with him.  And I want to watch the kids grow up.  I miss them so much.  
 
Not coming to take over, but to just help out and to be near them.  I don't want you to think I mean that in a negative way.  I do have a tendency to take over.  Not any more.  But, I also believe that until Bree gets better it will be good for the kids to have me close, a little bit of security when she goes bonkers.  
 
I am doing so well it scares me.  I needed to be away from the two big kids.  It will be different now.  
 
Love you lots.  I do consider you my friend, so you can say anything to me.     
 
Barbara 

Myrna wrote: Good grief! I do not remember that at all. Maybe I should start taking coconut oil to improve my memory. I only know that David tells me that he loves Bree. I think, from seeing them together, that it is quite true that he does. He is devoted. I do think that his love for her is apparent. I can't even imagine him saying anything like that. When they were living in St. George and she was in need of treatment, he did not say that. He was just interested in getting her the help and care that she needed to get better.

Leonard does not remember David ever saying anything negative about his life with Bree. He only remembers him saying that they had many good times together and that he enjoyed being a family man.

That comment could certainly sound negative. I am certain that it was not meant that way. Oh, dear. I just have no recollection of it at all. I want to be remembered as always supporting the pair of them and their wonderful children. 

Maybe I was talking about the dog. Hehehe. Leonard did bring him back to live in Nephi, remember? We actually enjoyed the creature. I am not much of a pet person because their fur causes me so much trouble. But we did enjoy having their dog stay here for awhile.


Barbara wrote: I had to laugh out loud, I just reread your first message, about being glad Alan isn't dying.  Yea, arent' we all.  And now the coconut oil.  LOL LOL ROTFL; my daughter just has such a way of so totally messing with her own life.  Maybe she is the one that needs the coconut oil.  LOL again.  Maybe I do.  LOL  We can all partake.  Im going to read the article now.  Will let you know what I think.