Auntie Helen Illness and Melanie's Move

Myrna wrote: Auntie Helen is going home today. The bowel obstruction and the abdominal lump were  both caused by a tumor she has on her liver. They did a biopsy yesterday but do not have the results. However, the doctor said it, most likely, can be treated with medications that she can take orally. They are starting her on those meds today. That's all Dad knows. When he talked to her, the doctor was there so he did not ask many questions. 

(Earlier Leonard wrote: Your Auntie has been in the hospital since Saturday. Just thought you should know. Love you, Dad)


Melanie wrote: So, did you know Dad emailed all of us?

Myrna wrote: Yes, he told me this morning. I also sent this last email at his request.

Melanie wrote; I know that you will keep us appraised of her situation. Howard's brother, Neil, had liver cancer several years ago and is in remission. I hope that it isn't anything that serious.

Our plans for moving on the 18th are still underway. They packers are supposed to be here next Tuesday. I am trying to keep the internet up and running until after they kick us out, so I can sit in the driveway and send emails. :)

Love you.
Mel

Myrna wrote: What did they do for Neil? When are they kicking you out?

Mel wrote: The closing date is Jan. 18th.
Neil was on chemotherapy.

Ryan

Kirsten wrote: Hey everyone,

Ryan is going in for his lip surgery (to correct the first surgery and retuck his left nostril) next Tuesday. If your fast sunday is this week, would you mind adding him to your prayers? It's not as invasive as his first surgery, but will still take two hours and he's older now and is already nervous. Thank you!

Love to you all, Kirsten


Myrna wrote: Do you need us?

Yes, it will be more of a trial, I am certain, because he is aware. I hate being sedated. I keep all of you on the temple prayer roll. Do you want me to add him to another temple prayer roll?


Kirsten wrote: I already asked dad to do that last week when I talked to him.  Hopefully, he remembered.  We're hoping to go to the temple on Saturday and will add his name here.


Myrna wrote: Both of us did it last week. I always do, every week. I know that I have always said that we did not need to add everyone but then I started working there and found out that one benefit is that we can list our whole family, so I do. I have the idea that, every week, one or more of us really need those special prayers.

I should have asked if you wanted me to add him to another temple's prayer roll--like Provo, etc.

I would live with principle

I would live so that Heavenly Father and my Savior are welcome to be part of my life. I would like to think that they could be comfortable to be with me in my day to day activities. That means that I must control myself and think appropriate thoughts, view appropriate and uplifting television shows and movies, communicate in wise an loving ways, listen to good music, read good books, study the scriptures more diligently, pray each night (and not just fall into bed). The computer should be my aid and not my master. I need to stop wasting time, losing my temper and, above all, I need to not be critical, judgmental, jealous and selfish. 

I would treat all my fellow beings with kindness. My goal, through all my life, has been to be kind to all and treat all people as I would like to be treated. In practice, I have found it more difficult to treat well those who have wronged me. I have learned, through long years of practice, that it is best to attempt to make peace with all and to think well of even those who do not like me. I have more compassion for those who do not like me with good reason. Sometimes my actions in standing up for what I believe have been justified. Sometimes they have not, but I do not like to have bad feelings with anyone. Especially when it is my error, I need to continue to work toward peace. I would be forgiving.

Another goal, based on principle, is to always keep on working to improve and to learn and to accept new challenges. I think that failure is only that if I cease trying. As I age, I would endure to the end. I know that Heavenly Father is in control and that there are no accidents. Someone said that everything happens for a reason. I am learning that even trials in life are for my best good.

I would work at nurturing my most important relationships by being affirming, positive, considerate and giving of self and personal time. I will continue to seek out those who need a show of increased love and give them that love. I need to always stop, pause, and remember that I am a daughter of God and He loves me and I love Him. I also love my Savior. I would show this love by treating my family as though they are the princes and princesses of a royal lineage.

Auntie Helen is Ill

Leonard wrote: Your Auntie has been in the hospital since Saturday. Just thought you should know. Love you, Dad

Myrna wrote: Auntie Helen has been in the hospital since Saturday night. She admitted herself to Murray Hospital because she had a great deal of abdominal pain. She called Auntie Eva and had Jim and David Dixon come and give her a blessing on Sunday. She let Auntie Eva call Uncle Don, Nanci and us. She did not want anyone else to know and she definitely does not want to end up being a topic of conversation nor does she want calls. 

Dad called her and she told him that she did not want ANY visits or calls or flowers or cards and that she did not want all of her friends and neighbors to know. 

You can't keep a good man down, however, and so Dad has been calling her. She had a blocked bowel. They did an MRI and found she also has a lump in her abdomen and spots on her liver. They did a liver test today, Tuesday, but will not have the results until later this week. I have no idea when she will go home nor what the lump may be nor what else they are going to do. 

Apparently, you really can't keep a good man down because, when Dad called tonight, Jim Dixon was there and answered the phone. Anyway, she doesn't want any fuss but I told you in spite of that. I know, I know, I never follow the rules. You can all chide me. I do keep some secrets. I just have to think that it is more important to do that than to not do that. I have been pondering about what I should do. 

I decided to let you know but urge you to not call. That way, you will, at least, be prepared if the news is not good and can pray, as am I, that it will be good news. Auntie Helen has been a good sister to me and I am worried about her.