From the Eric Trauntvein Family

From Eric Trauntvein Family to the Shawn Trauntvein Family.
Kimberly wrote: Thank you so much!

A Few of the Birthday Greetings That I Wanted to Save

There were many birthday greetings sent via email and Facebook. This is just a sample. My family all sent cards and friends posted on Facebook. I was surprised to hear from the following. David Childs also sent a card. 

This birthday was not an easy one because I reached the age of 72. Grandma Smith died at 72. Aunt Renee and Mom Edna also died in their early 70s. I found myself tearful and grateful to be alive but wondering what lies in store. 

David Childs: "Happy Birthday, Myrna! Hope that you are surrounded by love and family today and tomorrow and the rest of the holiday season! I love you!"


Russ Farrer: "Happy Birthday, Myrna"


Brigitta Trauntvein: "Hope everyone is safe and warm! Love you too!"


Beth Jensen Durfey: "Happy Birthday Myrna my dear friend!! I do hope you have a wonderful day today. You were born on one of my dear Aunts birthdays, My mom had 10 sisters. The one born on the 24th of Dec. was just older than she was. So I do hope your birthday is a very very Happy one. Love you my friend."

Kathi Tanner: "Have a really wonderful and Happy Birthday! And a great Christmas! We're having a warm Christmas on our mission to Sydney, Australia. Enjoy!"


David wrote: "Hi Myrna, been thinking about you as well. Thanks to your Christmas card and facebook, I do know that you seem to be doing well with your life and taking care of the diabetes! Good work! We're doing well, getting older and keeping happy (not necessarily in that order :) ) I love you too - Take care!"

Sandy Hook and Grief

Myrna wrote: I do appreciate this article sent by friends. I have grandchildren who live in Ohio, in Colorado, in Texas and all around in Utah and I have wondered, as I heard the news of the deaths of the innocents, how it could be possible that their sweet lives could be ended so cruelly. Nevertheless, I know that the babies will be raised by their parents during the Mellinium and will have all the chances to grow physically that we all have. Now they are spiritual grown-ups again and are about our Father's and our Savior's work on the other side. It is human to mourn, however, and I do. I mourn because Satan has sway with so many and, even though he will not win and will be cast out, he is delighting in causing a great deal of misery.

Thanks for sharing. Keep up the good work.

Merry Christmas. This was a tragedy that is hard to understand. I don't think we ever will in this life. This is an interesting story of the Stake President of the little Mormon girl who was killed. Read on, as it also talks about Abraham Lincoln and then the bombing of Japan.
We love you all.
Robert and Cindy

Grief
Dave Checketts is not a professionally trained clergyman.  The former chairman of Madison Square Garden and the New York Knicks is currently CEO of Legends Hospitality, the concessions and merchandise company he jointly owns with the New York Yankees and Dallas Cowboys.  But he’s also a lay minister for the Mormon Church with oversight of ten Mormon congregations in Fairfield County Connecticut, including the one in Newtown.  

On Friday morning Checketts had left his New Canaan Connecticut home and headed to his Park Avenue office to prepare for a weekend business trip to Dallas for Sunday's Cowboys-Steelers game.  He and Cowboys' owner Jerry Jones planned to host a group of new investors. But late morning he got an email about a shooting at Sandy Hook Elementary.  From his laptop he accessed the church records for Mormon families in Newtown.  Five of them had children that attended the school.  

A series of phone calls confirmed that all of those children were accounted for except one – six-year-old Emily Parker, a first grader.  Suddenly, it wasn't possible to focus on business.  Checketts cleared his calender for the afternoon. 

Robbie and Alyssa Parker had just moved to Connecticut from Ogden, Utah.  Along with Emily, they have daughters ages 2 and 4.  Robbie, a health care professional, worked at Danbury Hospital.  When Checketts reached him there, the facility was on lockdown due to the school shooting.  Robbie was on his way to meet his wife at the fire station in Newtown.   She was there with other parents awaiting word on the children. 

Checketts emailed leaders of Mormon congregations throughout western Connecticut: “Pray for Emily Parker.”  

He also organized a prayer service for that night.  Then he headed back to Connecticut.  He was almost to the Parker’s home when he got word that Emily was among the 20 children who had died.  “I didn’t know what to say,” Checketts said.  “I go back and forth between tears and anger.  It is just hard to comprehend.”

The business trip to Dallas got canceled.  In an email, Checketts notified Jones and the investors. One by one, they expressed condolences and promised prayers. 

When Checketts reached the Parker home, Robbie asked him to lead his family in prayer.  While praying, Checketts felt impressed to say that Robbie would deal with his grief by speaking publicly about the tragedy, and that he would emerge as a powerful voice for compassion and peace.

After the prayer, the family's needs were discussed.  Chief among them was finding a mortician.  But funeral homes in the area were overwhelmed.  Checketts promised to take care of everything, including all burial and funeral expenses.  

He called a funeral home in a nearby town.  Six years earlier Checketts had attended a service there for a young Mormon missionary who was killed by a drunk driver in Argentina.

“I had to go tell that boy’s parents that he wasn’t coming home alive,” Checketts said.  It was the hardest thing he’d ever done as an ecclesiastical leader.  However, that experience had introduced Checketts to an unusually empathetic funeral director. 

Suddenly facing an even harder situation, Checketts reached out to him and asked if he would prepare Emily’s body for burial.  The church, Checketts explained, would cover all the expenses.

“There will be no expenses,” the funeral director said.  

The following day, after authorities released the names of the victims, Parker was the first parent  to speak to the national media.  Without notes or a spokesman, Robbie choked back tears and expressed sympathy for the family of the man who killed 26 people and himself.  "I can't imagine how hard this experience must be for you," he said.

Checketts was moved to tears.“What happened in Newtown is unthinkable,” Checketts said.  “But little children are alive in Christ.  Though the nature of the crime is the essence of evil, our faith tells us that these children burst into the presence of God and are safe in his arms.”  

Grief, while heartbreaking, can also give rise to powerful acts of compassion.  By the time Abraham Lincoln gave his second inaugural address on March 4, 1865, the American Civil War had claimed roughly 750,000 lives, resulting in 37,000 widows and 90,000 orphans.  

Why did God allow such devastation?  It was a question Lincoln had pondered.  Plus, there were many in Washington that wanted to punish the Confederates for all the carnage. Against that backdrop, Lincoln said: 

"With malice toward none; with charity for all; with firmness in the right, as God gives us to see the right, let us strive on to finish the work we are in; to bind up the nation's wounds; to care for him who shall have borne the battle, and for his widow, and his orphan—to do all which may achieve and cherish a just and lasting peace among ourselves, and with all nations."

One month later Lincoln was assassinated.  But those words – with malice toward none – live on.  It reminds me of the story of Kenneth Brown, a U.S. Marine serving in Japan after the atomic bomb.  It was just before Christmas when Brown encountered a Japanese professor of music who introduced himself as a Christian.   He said he had a small children’s choir and asked if they could perform a concert for the American soldiers. 

Brown belonged to a unit of hardened fighters that had spent four years away from home, battling the Japanese from Saipan to Iwo Jima.  The concert took place on Christmas Eve in a bombed out theater.  The closing number was a solo from ‘The Messiah’ by a girl who sung with the conviction of one who knew that Jesus was indeed the Savior of mankind.  The soldiers cried.

Afterward, Brown asked the Japanese music professor: “How did your group manage to survive the bomb?”

“This is only half my group,” he said softly.  

“And what of the families of these?”

“They nearly all lost one or more members.  Some are orphans.”

“What about the soloist?  She must have the soul of an angel the way she sang.”

“Her mother, two of her brothers were taken.  Yes, she did sing well.  I am so proud of her.  She is my daughter.”  

Brown was moved to tears.  “We had caused them the greatest grief,” Brown later wrote.   “Yet we were their Christian brothers and as such they were willing to forget their grief and unite with us in singing ‘Peace on earth, goodwill to all men.’  That day I knew there was a greater power on earth than the atomic bomb.”

Dratted Letter

Myrna wrote: Next year, Kirsten, I am shipping the newsletter to you before I print. I printed the first 50 after Dad read it and said it was clean. It was missing a period. I fixed that and printed another 50. I was reading along and I have "author" twice in the same sentence. It is enough to drive me to the brink. I fixed that for the next printing. I don't see my errors. I need a good editor. Dad doesn't see my errors either, until they are in print, then he notices. UGH! Oh well, I suppose it is alright to look like an idiot. If the shoe fits. . . I've spent my life learning English and when I die, we will speak Adamic. (Apparently, I have not learned to be a proofreader.)

Kirsten Trauntvein Waite wrote:  Hahaha momma! Every editor needs an editor. Didn't you remember that? Especially if the proof reading editor recently had eye surgery.


Myrna wrote: The proofreading incident was BEFORE the eye surgery.

Kirsten Trauntvein Waite wrote: Apparently that surgery was really needed... . Lol. Love you, Mom!

Sonya Sue Sudweeks Gibson wrote:  As you have figured out in previous years I don't do the Christmas card thing . . . But I do want to tell you how much I enjoy reading yours and hearing how everyone is doing! I very much appreciate your friendship.

Honey for Christmas

David and Kate Bird Concerning a Gift to Alyce Childs Myrna wrote: I am not certain if another case of honey will be a welcome gift for Alyce or not. Tell her that it does have monetary value and can be sold if she has too much. :) Hehehe. Well, it does have monetary value but I don't suppose she is into ebay, right? At any rate, we just purchase the honey, through Leonard's labor at harvest time, so it is fine. I think it is a good gift, but I am not certain. Let me know.
Thanks!

David Bird wrote: Kate and I love the honey and use most of it.  Thanks!!! :)   I know that Alyce uses a little too.  Hmmmm.... Do what feels right I guess.  Merry Christmas!!!

Myrna wrote: We like giving it. One of my kids, however, gave a honey bear to a neighbor and they said: "What, more honey! What do you ever do with it all?" I mean, really, it was a honey bear. That wouldn't last a week in our family. So then we all started wondering. . .

Thanks for answering. A case should be heading home today with the Leamasters. I had to stay home from the temple so only LHT, the Strong and Healthy, was able to go. I have a REALLY awful cold. Poor me. :(

David Bird wrote (12/24/12) Thanks again for the honey!!!  We love it!!!  Get better soon!!!

Honey for Alyce

Myrna wrote; I am not certain if another case of honey will be a welcome gift for Alyce or not. Tell her that it does have monetary value and can be sold if she has too much. :) Hehehe. Well, it does have monetary value but I don't suppose she is into ebay, right? At any rate, we just purchase the honey, through Leonard's labor at harvest time, so it is fine. I think it is a good gift, but I am not certain. Let me know. Thanks! David Bird wrote: Kate and I love the honey and use most of it. Thanks!!! :) I know that Alyce uses a little too. hmmmm.... Do what feels right I guess. Merry Christmas!!! Myrna wrote: We like giving it. One of my kids, however, gave a honey bear to a neighbor and they said: "What, more honey! What do you ever do with it all?" I mean, really, it was a honey bear. That wouldn't last a week in our family. So then we all started wondering. . . Thanks for answering. A case should be heading home today with the Leamasters. I had to stay home from the temple so only LHT, the Strong and Healthy, was able to go. I have a REALLY awful cold. Poor me. :(

Merry Christmas

Myrna wrote: Do you have a new address for Deloris Bahr? Would you share it with me, please? I would like to send out a card. I know, I am just doing it: December 20. Better never. . .? Gordon wrote: Hi and Merry Christmas. We enjoyed your newsy, thought provoking, Christmas letter. Please forgive us for not sending a card on to you. Haven’t done many cards this year. Too many irons in the fire. Deloris Bahr’s address is 4176 West 6520 South, Taylorsville, Utah 84129. May the Lord’s blessings be with you and yours at this very special time of the year, Christmas, and throughout the coming year. Merry Christmas, and our love, Gordon and Roberta Smith Myrna wrote: Guess what? I probably sent you two cards. I couldn't remember for certain and I forgot to put a mark by your name. I'd tell you its because I am getting old, but I have always been like this. Thanks for Deloris' address.

Manti Temple Shift Party

Good Article

 Good Morning and Merry Christmas,

I was going to thank Myrna last night for publishing the article/letter about school safety, but she slipped out early. It is much appreciated! We have been managing a fair number of questions, comments, opinions etc. and the article will help provide some basis of understanding for those who read it. Furthermore, we will begin to process how best to move forward. 

Thanks again,
Dr. Jim Shank, Juab School District Superintendent 

Myrna: I was coming down with a really bad cold. It just kept getting worse and worse. I went home, took some cold med and went to bed. Thanks for the thanks. Would you remind Charlene to send me your goals. Thanks for that. M

Snowman Cartoon

Melanie found a cartoon, in color, that shows a child snowman with a yellow lower half. The mom said to the snowchild that she had thought the child had gone to the restroom before leaving. It was great and she sent it to Siovhan with the following comment, "I thought you would love this. You know my humor..." Siovhan Bolton baaaaaahahahahahahah reminds me of a few capri sun filled marathon drives. Myrna Trauntvein It reminds me of a little girl who used to sing at the top of her lungs because she needed to "go" and we had just left her house. Hehehehe. Siovhan Bolton hahaha i can believe that, especially because if we're honest that little girl sang at the top of her lungs 95% of the time. the other 5% she was asleep (between midnight and 5am). Myrna Trauntvein I had no problem with the midnight. It was a good thing that you had a grandpa for the 5 a.m. part.